Lots and lots of twittering about my iPhone debacle, so I wanted to give you all my side of the story.
I had a party for friends on Thursday nite because my friend Jason Defillippo was in town and is an excellent Rock Band guitar player. I thought it would be fun to get a few people together to try out Rock Band II and smoke a little hookah.
I created the event on Facebook and invited friends and set the permissions to allowing guests to bring friends. I tweeted about the party and asked people to direct message me or @ reply me for the address in case I wasn’t following them for some reason.
The party was going well; I knew everyone there or knew of them. There were one or two people that I didn’t know but many people vouched for them. Then Nick Starr showed up at my house with a guy I didn’t recognize. Right away my stomach became queasy and I expressed this to my friend Angela. I had recently met Nick at the Mimosa Factory event that he organized. When he introduced himself, the first words out of his mouth were that he wanted to commit suicide off the Golden Gate bridge. Me and my companions all looked at each other in complete shock and didn’t have any idea how to respond. Interestingly enough, a few days later, there were a bunch of tweets that Nick Starr has publicly tweeted that he wanted to kill himself. I was later to find out that he has done this a bunch of times and its either a cry for some serious help or a publicity stunt.
Back to the story. Nick showed up at my house and I just had a bad feeling. I didn’t want to turn him away because someone said he was invited by Melodi (who I don’t know) and Melodi was invited by Kara. I figured, OK, there is some vouching here and everyone at the party at least knew of Nick Starr if they didn’t call him a friend.
Party continues, I try to be a good hostess and introduce myself to Nick and his companion Ben. We even played Rock Band together.
It gets to be around 11:30pm or midnite and most of the guests have left. I was on the couch with Sean posting pictures to Flickr and then decided to get up and clean the kitchen. I put my iPhone down on the table next to the couch and that is the last time I saw it. BTW, its a Black 3G iPhone with a brown rubber cover with blue flowers. Here’s a pic.
Sean was on the couch and I saw Nick sitting with him. I thought it was odd because almost everyone except maybe one or two people had left. I looked again and Nick was gone.
That night I looked for my phone because I knew it was low on battery and wanted to plug it in, but I couldn’t find it. The next morning I looked again and Jason and Sean also looked for it. Couldn’t find it. I looked again and again. I went to check my email, and received the following from Nick Starr:
Hey thanks for having us over last night. I think I left my iPhone on the coffee table. It is a white one with no case. Is there any way I can meet you somewhere and get it at some point?
Thanks again for the rocking party,
I thought, hmm, that’s weird. I replied:
Thanks for coming!
No, I don’t have your cellphone. But I lost mine. Its black with a brown cover. I really wish I could find it because my dog is really sick and I need to call a vet. :(
Wait my phone isn’t there? someone took it? wtf….oh man. ugh
Then I started getting really suspicious. What made him think that it was stolen all of a sudden? And some people told me that he is always poor and complains about not having money.
At this point I was pissed off. We exchanged a few more emails and then this is what sealed the deal for me was this email:
I was invited by Melodi who I’ve known for a while now…I’ve only known that guy for 3 days now…I will ask him.
And this tweet from Nick. Seemed clear to me that he was trying to put the blame on this Ben guy because no one really knows him. So in my mind I was thinking about 3 possible scenarious: 1)Ben took it and Nick knew about it. 2) Nick took it 3) Ben took it and Nick didn’t know. Either way, Nick brought this guy into my house and I as far as I’m concerned, needs to get my phone back or pay to replace it.
A lot of other emails, IMs, tweets, etc. occurred throughout the day. I spoke to my Dad who is a Private Investigator and he said that the first email that Nick sent me was very suspicious. I went to the Mission Police Department to report this crime and they said the same thing.
At this point my phone has not been returned. It cost me $500 and now I have to pay another $500 to replace it. More than the money which completely sucks, I am so sad that a fun party with my friends has turned into something really sad. I hate that someone came into my house and stole from me after hanging out with me. I hate that I am so angry right now while I am planning my wedding. I am trying to get past this. Really really trying.
Here are my lessons learned:
1) Events on Facebook need to be private if they include your house address. Can’t trust anyone to keep that information private even if you invite them as a friend.
2) Trust your instincts. If you have a queasy feeling about someone, ask them to leave.
3) During a house party, only allow new people that you don’t know into your house if they have at least one other person there that you trust and will vouch for them
4) Keep all documentation of any crime and take it all to the police with you. There is an online crime reporting site, but going in person means you can provide print outs.
5) Get house or renters insurance that includes a rider for electronics
6) Know who your friends are.
Thanks everyone for your help and support in trying to get to the bottom of this.