Tara Tiger Brown

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So, a little craziness went down on Friday and I have felt the need to respond to all the comments – both supportive (thank you so so much) and the less than supportive.  Some of you have also made me feel like I need to justify what happened and this makes me very sad, so I’m going to tell you what the deal is and then let it go.  I also just need to sort it out myself so this might not be most eloquently written post, but sometimes emotions can’t be nicely organized.

To answer the most frequently asked question over the last 2 days “Are you really engaged? Or is it Internet tomfoolery?” The answer is Yes.  Yes, I am engaged to Sean Bonner. And I am ecstatic. Overjoyed. Very very happy. 🙂

For those that don’t know me or Sean very well, you may think that it was some publicity stunt or a cry for attention. Trust me, I had no idea that the response would be as huge as it was.  If I had known, then I would have thought twice about responding over Twitter.

I’ve written about how we met, our relationship circumstances at the time, our friendship that turned into more during a roadtrip, and our deep stalker like infatuation for each other (ha ha).

Sean and I have brought up getting hitched, so it wasn’t a new idea.  In fact, when we were in Orlando for Izeafest, my Mum called me and asked if we were going to get married. The other day Sean’s Mum asked if we were already married.  Mums intuition is strong.

As I stated on BoingBoing:

For the official record…

Sean lives in LA and I live in SF. We tweet, Skype, IM, and txt each other all the time. I’ve written a bit about this…

https://tarabrown.wordpress.com/2008/09/17/ldr-hope-is-less-distant/

Asking me over Twitter was probably the most adorable, amazing, dorky, hilarious and appropriate move Sean could have made.

As for the in-person smooch, he gets to SF on Tuesday. 🙂

When we joked about getting engaged over Twitter, I never thought it would actually happen that way, but I am happy that it did.  At first I did think we were joking around but we Skyped with each other to discuss it and just knew its what we wanted. Hence no “sike!” reply.

To give you further insight into how I roll, I told my parents by emailing them the following:

Dear Mum and Dad,

Please read this:

http://www.boingboing.net/2008/10/10/tweethearts-blogger.html

Love,
Tara

My Mum hasn’t responded, but here’s my Dad’s response:

Subject: Nervous Breakdown

It is obvious that you have had a breakdown.

We are making mutual arrangements to have you committed

Love
Dad

As you can see, even if he is concerned, he is lighthearted about it. 🙂  Sean and I are going to Vancouver in a couple of weeks so we will see how he really feels. 🙂

Some of you have personal biases about how long a couple should know each other before getting married.   That’s fine, everyone can have their opinions. I just ask that you don’t state them in a way that is hurtful to me because those are your beliefs and sometimes when expressing them to me, it makes me feel like I am doing something wrong.

The bottom line is this.  Both Sean and I were in relationships that were unhappy, and we stuck them out for longer than we should have.  We learned from experience what we do and don’t want from a relationship and we were very very lucky and fortunate to find each other.  We know that we are very happy together. We both want to live in the now and commit ourselves to each other.  I’m not going to go on and on about how much I adore and love Sean and am happy every minute that he feels the same way about me.  But its true.

Thank you so so much to all of you that have sent your congratulations and love and support. So many people I don’t know but hope I can meet one day.  To those of you that have a hard time with it, I am sorry that you feel that way. I hope it doesn’t come between us.

Lastly, I want to thank Ryan McMinn for introducing us at a cafe during SXSW 2008 and Jay Goldman and David Crow for being apart of that too. Note that they are all Canadians. Of course.

Now, onto Space Pirate/Ninja/Zombie/Cowboy wedding planning.  Please note that Jason Defillippo has already requested the job of being my Maid of Honor although Angela Baxley is still fighting him for it.

I totally stalk Sean Bonner

I totally stalk Sean Bonner

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17 Responses

  1. jm says:

    It is all very happy in occasion, and there is no reason you should let anyone take this time away from you simply because it doesn’t conform to their traditional ideas of what/when/how an engagement should be.

    Also I’m pretty sure I can get ordained over the Internets if you need a minister who may or may not know Ninja moves. Just saying!

  2. Erica says:

    I am so happy and completely supportive of you both. If I were in SF I would txt you to find out where you were to give you a giant hug. Love is all there is! Grab it while you can!

  3. Snowbear says:

    You don’t need to justify nuthin to any of us crazy internet peeps. Mom and Dad though . . . 0_o *lol*

    I was pretty sure it wasn’t a publicity stunt or a cry for attention. I think I’ve learned at least that much about you two via twitter to get the impression you aren’t that kind of people. 😀

    That said though I wasn’t entirely sure if you two were prankin us all. *lol* So other than to remind you of the space cowboys (Firefly! w00t!) I didn’t say anything. 😀 When there was no “Ha ha fooled ya!” the next day I admit I cheered a bit.

    So once again, from one Canadian to another. Congratulations ya hosers! And don’t forget yer toques eh!

    Chris
    (from Winnipeg)

  4. Andy Mesa says:

    When I told an analog-loving friend of mine that two people I know were just engaged over Twitter, I felt I had to defend the action and explain that for some people it’s the perfect way to do such a thing. In fact, this was my exact reply:

    “I don’t know, I guess it depends on the people. It’s probably not something I would do, because I like to be overly elaborate about even minor things, like writing overlong journal comments, so something as big as a proposal I’d probably go ridiculously overboard with. However, it’s a sweet way to do a public proposal. They’re both web nerds, and all of their friends are web nerds, so everyone’s on Twitter and got to see this as it happened. I think it’s kind of sweet, and a culmination of a relationship that has been recorded on Twitter since its inception.”

    So yeah, I absolutely agree and I’m super happy for you guys.

  5. Dave says:

    No excuses whatsoever necessary to the world. You guys rawk…even though I don’t really “know” you, I do know enough to see that you are good people.
    The world of preconceived best-practices for human interactions is being de-constructed and reconstructed by peeps like you guys…in plain english: if you guys use technology to connect, why not use it for love?
    Congratulations! From one “fan” out there, I think this is phenomenal news.

  6. When you two were here for Izeafest, you guys were totally clicking, so I wasn’t too surprised. In fact, I personally think it was totally sweet and unconventional.

    As for naysayers, screw ’em. It’s not their relationship. It’s yours. As long as it makes you happy, then that’s all that matters. 🙂

    Major congrats to both of you and many blessings for your relationship.

    PS: What about a space ninja?

  7. […] already wrote a bit about here take on it all and I wanted to echo much of what she said and throw a few of my own cents into the ring simply […]

  8. Michelle says:

    Congratulations! My husband proposed after 3 months, and we’ve been married for over 9 years. And as he is a medical resident, you probably see and communicate with Sean more than I am able to with my husband when he is in an intense rotation.

    Michelle (from Edmonton, formerly of Saskatoon)

  9. Rae says:

    It’s a shame people are so quick to judge. Just because engagement via Twitter wouldn’t be their ideal or fit their relationship doesn’t mean you should have to justify why it fits yours. Silly.

    Meanwhile, I wish the two of you much happiness. I know I only spent a brief time with you guys but I could tell the affection you held for each other ran deep and was geniune. Therefore I couldn’t help but smile at the twitter proposal. It felt like a very Tara and Sean way to get engaged. Congrats again!

  10. Yay! Congrats! Even though we’re only new digital friends, I feel like I’ve watched your relationship evolve over Twitter & yr blogs and it’s wild. Inner-nets, FTW!

  11. anthusiast says:

    Congratulations from Indonesia ! I’m happy for you 🙂

  12. mydiybaby says:

    always in support of people doing things their own way! huzzah!!

  13. Rachel says:

    Good for you for following you heart and not letting anyone rain on what sounds like a great parade! All the best

  14. Darthclue says:

    Congratulations!

    From a complete stranger … my wife and I dated for 2 months before we decided to get hitched. That was 10 years and 4 kids ago and we’ve never looked back.

    If it makes you happy that is all that matters.

  15. dw says:

    Oh, I’m happy for you kids.

    You’re either going to be old, tattooed people sitting on your front porch holding hands telling kids to get off your lawn or this relationship will end with the intensity of a million suns rendering most of California uninhabitable with a fireball that could be seen from Nashville.

    But either way, you two are made for each other. Good on ya both.

  16. Juliana says:

    Hey Tara,

    You don’t know me, I’m from Brazil, and I saw all the twitter craziness on your engagement. Reading more about it, I ended up here. 🙂

    Just want to wish you and Sean all the best. It doesn’t matter the way people think/believe you should behave or do things, what matters is that it feels right to both of you. Like that Sheryl Crow’s song says “if it makes you happy, it can’t be that bad”.

    Congrats once again! Wish you a lifetime of happiness!!

  17. Clintus says:

    I know I have already congratulated you both both in reading this post I just have to do it again. You two are so awesome and so awesome together. Much love and respect…

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