So, a little craziness went down on Friday and I have felt the need to respond to all the comments – both supportive (thank you so so much) and the less than supportive. Some of you have also made me feel like I need to justify what happened and this makes me very sad, so I’m going to tell you what the deal is and then let it go. I also just need to sort it out myself so this might not be most eloquently written post, but sometimes emotions can’t be nicely organized.
To answer the most frequently asked question over the last 2 days “Are you really engaged? Or is it Internet tomfoolery?” The answer is Yes. Yes, I am engaged to Sean Bonner. And I am ecstatic. Overjoyed. Very very happy. 🙂
For those that don’t know me or Sean very well, you may think that it was some publicity stunt or a cry for attention. Trust me, I had no idea that the response would be as huge as it was. If I had known, then I would have thought twice about responding over Twitter.
I’ve written about how we met, our relationship circumstances at the time, our friendship that turned into more during a roadtrip, and our deep stalker like infatuation for each other (ha ha).
Sean and I have brought up getting hitched, so it wasn’t a new idea. In fact, when we were in Orlando for Izeafest, my Mum called me and asked if we were going to get married. The other day Sean’s Mum asked if we were already married. Mums intuition is strong.
As I stated on BoingBoing:
For the official record…
Sean lives in LA and I live in SF. We tweet, Skype, IM, and txt each other all the time. I’ve written a bit about this…
Asking me over Twitter was probably the most adorable, amazing, dorky, hilarious and appropriate move Sean could have made.
As for the in-person smooch, he gets to SF on Tuesday. 🙂
When we joked about getting engaged over Twitter, I never thought it would actually happen that way, but I am happy that it did. At first I did think we were joking around but we Skyped with each other to discuss it and just knew its what we wanted. Hence no “sike!” reply.
To give you further insight into how I roll, I told my parents by emailing them the following:
Dear Mum and Dad,
Please read this:
My Mum hasn’t responded, but here’s my Dad’s response:
Subject: Nervous Breakdown
It is obvious that you have had a breakdown.
We are making mutual arrangements to have you committed
As you can see, even if he is concerned, he is lighthearted about it. 🙂 Sean and I are going to Vancouver in a couple of weeks so we will see how he really feels. 🙂
Some of you have personal biases about how long a couple should know each other before getting married. That’s fine, everyone can have their opinions. I just ask that you don’t state them in a way that is hurtful to me because those are your beliefs and sometimes when expressing them to me, it makes me feel like I am doing something wrong.
The bottom line is this. Both Sean and I were in relationships that were unhappy, and we stuck them out for longer than we should have. We learned from experience what we do and don’t want from a relationship and we were very very lucky and fortunate to find each other. We know that we are very happy together. We both want to live in the now and commit ourselves to each other. I’m not going to go on and on about how much I adore and love Sean and am happy every minute that he feels the same way about me. But its true.
Thank you so so much to all of you that have sent your congratulations and love and support. So many people I don’t know but hope I can meet one day. To those of you that have a hard time with it, I am sorry that you feel that way. I hope it doesn’t come between us.
Now, onto Space Pirate/Ninja/Zombie/Cowboy wedding planning. Please note that Jason Defillippo has already requested the job of being my Maid of Honor although Angela Baxley is still fighting him for it.