I’m not part of any divorce groups or really advertise that I myself am divorced, but for some reason around 30% of the people I interact with lately – both new and old – are divorced within the last year or in the process of . All of them are in my age group – 30s, and most were with their spouse for more than 5 years. I have found this to be almost unbelievable at times and I’m wondering what the deal is.
These fellow divorcees aren’t acquaintenances either, some include my roommate, the dood I’m dating, close friends in Seattle, San Francisco, Vancouver. It’s gotten to the point that I’m surprised when someone that I haven’t seen for a long time tells me they are still with their spouse as opposed to not.
It’s both good and bad to be surrounded by people with similar circumstances to me. Good in that I can talk to others about what I’m going through and they are a wonderful, empathetic support system. Bad in that I am constantly reminded of my situation because the topic of conversation typically shifts to the latest drama with the ex.
What I really want to touch on here is this – if 30% of my friends are separated or divorced and in their 30s, what is the total number of people in the US or beyond? It has to be staggering. Is this a case of getting married too early…ie in our 20s? Is it a case of independence and liberation and more options because of the Internet? Are people less willing to “settle” these days?
I don’t have the answers but I am definitely going to explore this topic more and would love to get any feedback.